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I picked up Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity after watching her poignant TED talk about how to sustain desire in long-term relationships. (If you want a Cliff’s Notes version of the book, watch the talk below). Perel is a psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience with couples, particularly […]

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best lesbian books where no one dies
I joked about this in The Lesbian Sex Haiku Book (with Cats!) — and in The Toast post that prefaced the book — but A LOT of books, movies, and TV shows featuring queer characters die! There’s even a hashtag: #BuryYourGays. (For more on this not-very-subtle phenomenon, read this.) That said, there are SO MANY terrific […]

The 10 best lesbian books where no one dies!

This was adapted from my newsletter, Annagrams, which you should sign up for, so we can send overly personal emails to each other and talk about books and writing and life and probably Bob Ross memes. Enter your email address powered by TinyLetter   Like many people, I’m not terrific […]

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Welcome to installation two of Book Clubbed. If you missed installation one and/or don’t know what the hell I’m talking about, go here and enjoy Ammie’s review of Bastard Out of Carolina.  To continue our theme of books that devastate, I present to you a review on Joan Didion‘s The […]

Book Clubbed: Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking

I love books. On my OkCupid profile, I say that books are my dominatrix. Nothing inspires me more, influences my writing, speaks to my soul, verbs my cliche noun, etc.  And yet, I never seem to write about books. I’m trying to be better about that. I wrote one review […]

Book Clubbed: Dorothy Allison’s Bastard Out of Carolina

I just finished this quirky book, The Chairs Are Where The People Go, by Misha Glouberman and Sheila Heti. It’s basically Glouberman’s thoughts on topics he’s interested in. There’s a chapter on spam filters, for instance. There are chapters on monogamy, smoking, how to arrange the chairs at events, and […]

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