This is a vignette from my newsletter.   “The problem is we’re both grandiose,” you said. It was dusk. We were circling each other like vultures. I told you I was going away for a while, but that I’d bring you back something really good. “I don’t want that,” you […]

Being with you is like fighting a wave


This is a vignette from my newsletter   I recently cried on a treadmill listening to the Dixie Chicks’ “Goodbye Earl.” I’d never considered the lesbian subtext of that song before — Maryanne and Wanda end up living together on a farm and selling artisanal jam after they kill Wanda’s […]

If I could love you a thousand more years


This is a vignette from my newsletter.   “I want to feel the wild charge of your bare skin against mine,” you said. It was late at night and I had been driving for hours through Maryland Virginia North Carolina. We passed a billboard that said, “It’s not a choice, it’s […]

The wild charge



This is a vignette from my newsletter.   It was late again. (Isn’t it always?) For the last hour you had been seducing me with tales of Hawaiian sea goddesses and their revenges. You told me to take my clothes off and light a candle. You told me to fill […]

My first language is you


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Nothing makes you feel more productive than seeing all the work you’ve produced in a year in one place, which I did in 2016 on this blog. And am doing again RIGHT NOW. If you make things, write things, draw things, etc., I highly recommend tracking what you’ve done in […]

All of my writing in 2017


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This week I got a question at my Redeye advice column from a 17 year old, who had recently come out. “Please warm me of the complexities,” she said. I did. You can read that here. But while I was at it, I put the question on social media, since, […]

23 Takes on How to Be Queer: Advice for Young ...