In May of this year, I answered a Redeye advice question from a queer teen about the common refrain, “It gets better,” (coined by Dan Savage and his husband, and is also now an excellent youth support nonprofit). Because the holidays are a struggle for a great many people, and […]

Does it really “get better”? Advice to a queer teenager

best lesbian books where no one dies
I joked about this in The Lesbian Sex Haiku Book (with Cats!) — and in The Toast post that prefaced the book — but A LOT of books, movies, and TV shows featuring queer characters die! There’s even a hashtag: #BuryYourGays. (For more on this not-very-subtle phenomenon, read this.) That said, there are SO MANY terrific […]

The 10 best lesbian books where no one dies!

In 1972, two lesbian friends, Mary Ellen Cunha and Peggy Forster, bought Twin Peaks Tavern on the corner of Market and Castro streets. “The girls,” as they were known, didn’t realize that the act of opening a gay bar with windows would be a historic act. At the time of its unveiling, being […]

Love Letters to San Francisco: Twin Peaks

I have a new essay up on Salon. It’s about my breakup with Ellie (Just when you thought I couldn’t possibly write anymore on the topic!), but mostly it’s about love and transition and the ways that love gets shifted around as we grow and change. I was talking with […]

The Minimalist Guide to Moving On

I used to get ads for diet pills and raging gay lady parties in places like southern Florida, but now THIS. Way to diminish my queer cred, Facebook. Or is this just par for the course for any girl around the age of 30? Let us also take a moment […]

Facebook Wants Me To Be Pregnant

All the cute dykes I see turn out to be pre-teen boys. What does that mean? Don’t answer that, actually.

Haiku for Adulthood #102