The Frisky has a pretty good list of 11 Girl on Girl Misconceptions, including the oft-aggravating “it’s just a phase” line and the fact that no one quite knows how scissoring got picked up as a lezzie sex move in porn.
Though I could’ve done without all the “Puhleases!”and “Roars!” from the obviously exasperated writer. Also, I take issue with this:
Being gay is easier than being straight because you’re dating someone who is the same gender as you. I wish this were true, but it isn’t. Guys complain that girls are impossible to figure out and I agree. I don’t understand my own emotions and feelings half the time, let alone another woman’s. Oh yeah, and if you think having sex with someone who has the same parts as you is easier, you’re wrong there too. You know how it’s easy to put mascara on yourself but not on someone else? Yeah, it’s kind of like that.
I take issue, not because I don’t know how to put mascara on myself or because she doesn’t know the difference between sex and gender, but because in refuting one stereotype, she’s buying into a DIFFERENT stereotype, namely that women are flighty, emotional wrecks, who “don’t understand their own emotions, let alone someone else’s.” Also, it IS easier to have sex with someone who has your same plumbing. Continue with me on this shitty metaphor for a moment (see what I did there?): Who would you rather fix your toilet, someone who uses a toilet every day or someone who lives in post-Communist Poland? (Okay, fine, they have toilets, but not toilet PAPER!). The point is, I’ve been familiar with vaginas for some time now and I use them often, almost as much as I watch episodes of 30 Rock, so I’m familiar with how they work, what different sensations feel like and how long it takes to marinate a pot roast inside one. Ask me what a blow job feels like, however, and I will most likely turn the conversation to Taylor Lautner’s abs, something I am much more intimately knowledgeable about. P.S. Look at his ninja moves!
Then there was this misconception: “Lesbians get committed really fast.” Sure, the U-Haul on the second date joke is an exaggeration, but out of all the lesbian stereotypes, this one hits home the most. You could blame socialization, as Pop Matters did: “Women are socialized to establish emotional bonds with other women and often crave a nurturing relationship, meaning they have a greater propensity to set up a home together quickly.” I think it has more to do with the fact that lesbians don’t have to follow a prescribed mating timeline like heteros do (dating, commitment, cohabitation, marriage, kids, etc), and can make it up as they go along. Or, if you’re me, you cohabitate to double your wardrobe.
What do y’all think of this list of misconceptions? What would you add or take away? Here’s one to start: Lesbians love sports. Puhlease! Unless darts is a sport!