Some Writing


I write a lot of things each week — far too much to include here — but here’s a short sample. If you want a more streamlined version, keep in touch with my newsletter.

Essays

The only way to love a married woman

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Opinions

Why won’t Orange Is the New Black acknowledge bisexuality?

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Journalism

The Power of No, East Bay Express 

A new wave of consent-based intimacy events and communities are reshaping the sexual and sensual landscape in the East Bay.

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Reinventing the Wheels, East Bay Express

In the male-dominated sport, female skaters in the Bay Area and beyond are creating their own cultures, challenging stereotypes, and inspiring others along the way.

Photo/Bert Johnson.

Photo/Bert Johnson

Advice

“Here are the names of some of my favorite advice columnists: Cary Tennis, Anna Pulley, Dan Savage…” — Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild, Tiny Beautiful Things, and Torch

The RedEye Sex Column, Chicago Tribune

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Favorites

I want to dump my girlfriend because she’s poor.

How to ask for more foreplay: Is it too much to ask? Of course not, but you have to actually do the asking. I know, it seems weird to tell your boyfriend that sex should last longer than heating up a Hot Pocket, but well, stranger things have happened.

Coping with getting dumped. Plus, what is roller derby exactly?

The Hook Up, AfterEllen

Illustration/Raquel Breternitz

Favorites

How to deal with intense heartache.

Questions from Aussie readers about how to keep flirting under control when you have a partner, and how to enter into a trusting relationship when you’ve been abused.

How to deal with a friend that jokes about your sexuality. Also, how to give a lap dance.

Sex Writing

Salon

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AlterNet

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Elsewhere

Mother Jones

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East Bay Express

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SF Weekly

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The Rumpus

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