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We’ve all been victims of awkward small talk. The guy who won’t stop talking about his labradoodle. The gal who answers every conversation question with a one word reply. The cheese platter you refuse to leave because it’s more engaging than your party companions. Many of us even actively AVOID […]

Make Small Talk Suck Less: 10 Ways to Become a ...


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I’ve been freelancing for about a decade. It started as a side gig to make my full-time job seem more bearable. I told myself that if I could get paid to write essays about dating a girl who wanted to be Harry Potter, then sitting in a cubicle 40 hours a week […]

Freelance Like a Boss: 6 Tips for Emerging Writers


A while back, a guy wrote in to my advice column, wondering how often anal sex led to pregnancy. My answer ended with a limerick: I once met a dude on the ‘net, who wrote to me very upset. When you ride the caboose and some sperm is knocked loose, a […]

Dating and sex advice in limerick form



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As an advice columnist, the most common question I get from queer women is some variation of this: “She did [some small gesture that could possibly be construed as flirtation]! Does that mean she likes me?” Examples of small, ambiguous gestures have included: Sharing a dessert with the same fork […]

Top 3 dating mistakes lesbians make


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Bound is one of my all-time favorite movies, not just because of the amazing sex scene directed by Susie Bright, but because … um, other reasons. IMPORTANT ONES. Mise-en-scene and stuff. Yes. It’s a compelling crime drama dripping with seductive suspense and breathy innuendo. I wrote a “review” of the […]

‘Bound’ star Jennifer Tilly calls our book ‘thoroughly charming’


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I’m on a fishing boat crossing the Black Sea and all I can think about is you. Or rather, all I can think about is your father, who you said was murdered on a fishing boat, that the whole crew was murdered actually. I thought when you told me that, it […]

People You Loved Who Weren’t Me