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This week I got a question at my Redeye advice column from a 17 year old, who had recently come out. “Please warm me of the complexities,” she said. I did. You can read that here. But while I was at it, I put the question on social media, since, […]

23 Takes on How to Be Queer: Advice for Young ...


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I picked up Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity after watching her poignant TED talk about how to sustain desire in long-term relationships. (If you want a Cliff’s Notes version of the book, watch the talk below). Perel is a psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience with couples, particularly […]

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A while back, a guy wrote in to my advice column, wondering how often anal sex led to pregnancy. My answer ended with a limerick: I once met a dude on the ‘net, who wrote to me very upset. When you ride the caboose and some sperm is knocked loose, a […]

Dating and sex advice in limerick form



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I’m on a fishing boat crossing the Black Sea and all I can think about is you. Or rather, all I can think about is your father, who you said was murdered on a fishing boat, that the whole crew was murdered actually. I thought when you told me that, it […]

People You Loved Who Weren’t Me


A while back, I did a haiku series for The Toast called “If Lesbian Porn Were Accurate.” Such as: Naughty Lesbian Babysitter Has Surprise for Dad When He Returns Home She let the kids stay up until 11 watching Harry Potter. * Hot MILFs Engage in a Steamy Clam Photo […]

If Lesbian Porn Were Accurate