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As an advice columnist, the most common question I get from queer women is some variation of this: “She did [some small gesture that could possibly be construed as flirtation]! Does that mean she likes me?” Examples of small, ambiguous gestures have included: Sharing a dessert with the same fork […]

Top 3 dating mistakes lesbians make


jennifer tilly gina gershon bound
Bound is one of my all-time favorite movies, not just because of the amazing sex scene directed by Susie Bright, but because … um, other reasons. IMPORTANT ONES. Mise-en-scene and stuff. Yes. It’s a compelling crime drama dripping with seductive suspense and breathy innuendo. I wrote a “review” of the […]

‘Bound’ star Jennifer Tilly calls our book ‘thoroughly charming’


Kelsey Beyer, my super-talented and amazing girlfriend, added some lesbian cat prints of images from our book on her Etsy shop  and you should buy them if… You love cats or art or queer women or tea or glasses or sex toys or sex generally or poetry or philosophy or kink or therapy or […]

Get this for your crush and then RUN AWAY




I wrote this on a whim months ago and didn’t think much of it—I thought it was cheesy and obvious! And then recently I posted it on Instagram/Twitter and many people said it was their new favorite haiku. It’s also been retweeted hundreds of times, even by Dan Savage! So, […]

Are Lesbians Actually Zombies: A Graduate Thesis in Haiku


A month ago, New York magazine published my essay about being awkward at sex parties. It was very well-received and I was asked to do a few podcasts to talk about lesbian orgies and social awkwardness and sometimes haikus. I also received many “OMG me too!” messages, which was oddly comforting, […]

A wallflower at the orgy