If you search for “Denny’s” in Chicago, my name comes up. This post serves to further increase my online connection to the oft-visited diner of my youth (and by “youth” I mean, existence). The link is to ye olde Centerstage column, Meet Market Maven, where I’m pretty sure I mention […]

Grand Slam Thank You Ma’am

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Got some link love on the Chicago Sun-Times today for my former dating column: Things to do in Chicago when it’s snowing… # Reading. The Chicago Reader’s annual fiction issue is online for your pleasure. For more inspiration, check out Jonathan Messinger’s Books of 2009, or locally based sites like […]

Sun-Times Shout Out

People who live in Chicago, tomorrow is the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers (December 17th) and the Sex Workers Outreach Project is hosting an event: We look forward to seeing everyone at tomorrow night’s International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers Event at barbara&barbara gallery starting […]

End Violence Against Sex Workers

Thanksgiving day in 2005 was the first time I thought I could die from the cold. It was stupid degrees outside, with a -20 wind chill, and I had a fever. I didn’t know about the fever as we drove from Rogers Park to Hyde Park to cook Indian food […]

You can spell hospitality without hospital

I don’t know quite what to do with this blog. I’ve been writing over here for a while now: Good Migrations but that’s mostly about traveling. And I am kind of pretty much done traveling for a while. Unless we’re talking about the sisterhood of the traveling pants, in which […]


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Poly wanna what? Reshaping the debate on polyamory The cover story of today’s RedEye is all about polyamory. Other articles include a glossary of poly lingo and a resource guide for Chicagoans on, among other things, where poly peeps go to sing karaoke:The PolyChi Yahoo! Group, founded in the late […]

polyamory in the RedEye, autoerotic asphyxiation and more!

A look at the website, Cheater News, where people can anonymously post revenge stories, insults and grooming tips for those they have been wronged by. Favorite quote: Back in late Dec. 2005, I left Laura M. Why? Laura is the P@ssy trap And someone even uses the “you have a […]

cheater news – harmless? pointless? justice?

Check out a review of Holly Hughes’ performance, courtesy of Ammie: Back when I was a babydyke and still in the “everything queer is automatically awesome” stage, I bought my then-girlfriend a copy of Holly Hughes’ Clit Notes: A Sapphic Sampler, which is a collection of the lesbian performance artist’s […]

Holly Hughes preaches to the perverted at Northwestern

This is the first “angry letter” I’ve ever received from a bar review. “What were you thinking? it’s obvious you were never at the original Touche when it was on Lincoln Ave. Touche in Rogers Park is a dirty-stinky hole in the wall, where most of the male Ho’s hang […]

in which i am blamed for the spread of HIV

Sex toys have been around in one form or another since the invention of the cucumber. They’ve been uncovered at archeological digs, appear on ancient Greek vases, and are even mentioned in the bible: “You also took the fine jewelry I gave you, the jewelry made of my gold and […]

Sermon on The Mount

I’ve been reviewing a bunch of (mostly terrible) lesbian movies for this year’s queer film fest, Reeling. You can read them here and here. I’m a masochist, so watching these movies is something of a ritual for me, though this year’s film selections are leaving me pretty hard-up for nice […]

speaking of gay…