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The Wrong Way to Make a Girl Orgasm

Flickr/Paul-in-London

It’s been a while since I’ve told an embarrassing sex story in front of dozens of strangers, but that time is upon us once again. Come to Bawdy Storytelling’s event on Thursday, May 16: BawdySlam at Balancoire (2565 Mission St, S.F.). The theme is “Never Saw Them Again” so I’m going to tell a story about a dude who thoughtRead the Rest…


The Minimalist Guide to Moving On

winter sunset

I have a new essay up on Salon. It’s about my breakup with Ellie (Just when you thought I couldn’t possibly write anymore on the topic!), but mostly it’s about love and transition and the ways that love gets shifted around as we grow and change. I was talking with my therapist recently about why queer women are so oftenRead the Rest…


I believe in Pulleyamorous relationships: I read other advice, but this is my primary advice column. ----- Dara Nai