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This week I got a question at my Redeye advice column from a 17 year old, who had recently come out. “Please warm me of the complexities,” she said. I did. You can read that here. But while I was at it, I put the question on social media, since, […]

23 Takes on How to Be Queer: Advice for Young ...

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I picked up Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity after watching her poignant TED talk about how to sustain desire in long-term relationships. (If you want a Cliff’s Notes version of the book, watch the talk below). Perel is a psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience with couples, particularly […]

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I joked about this in The Lesbian Sex Haiku Book (with Cats!) — and in The Toast post that prefaced the book — but A LOT of books, movies, and TV shows featuring queer characters die! There’s even a hashtag: #BuryYourGays. (For more on this not-very-subtle phenomenon, read this.) That said, there are SO MANY terrific […]

The 10 best lesbian books where no one dies!

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Today is the one-year anniversary of The Lesbian Sex Haiku Book (with Cats!). To celebrate, Kelsey and I are giving away a free copy of the book AND this amazing Frida Kahlo cat print—which Kelsey is releasing on Etsy today. Two lucky people will win a print or the book […]

Lesbians! Sex! Cats! A Giveaway!

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Do you want to learn American sign language? Ai-Media put together a short video with free resources to help you learn ASL (and one TV show. Because Marlee Matlin is in it? I watched The L Word about 50 times and didn’t pick up any ASL … BUT I DIGRESS). […]

Some cool, free resources for learning sign language

I have a confession. I’m kind of in denial about my hearing loss. It’s not that I think I’m NOT hard of hearing — I definitely am! I wear hearing aids. I say “What?” about 300 times a day, or on particularly harried days, “Wha?” It’s not that I think I don’t […]

Hilarious and terrible advice for people with hearing loss